Nexus March/April 1994 "Toward a New Spiritual Ethic" by Kate Wheeler Scene: A himalayan cave, or an ashram in Anytown, U.S.A. Not-So-Great-Master (leaning down to touch New Deisciple's head): "Yes, dear one, I will teach you. But the spiritual path is full of perils and pitfalls. Indeed, it is like walking a rzor's edge." New Disciple (eyes sparkling): "Ooh, wow!" No-So-Great Master: "I'll hold your hand. Climb onto my lap. Good, good. I'll keep you save." New Disciple: "What's this?" Not-So-Great Master: "Don't worry. We must achieve profound oneness so that you can be enlightened." New Disciple (dubiously): "If you say so." Spiritual practitioners do walk a razor's edge. In order to reach a new mode of being, we question our assumptions, the very basis of what is real to us. In doing so, we make ourselves extremely vulnerable to the teachers we work with - and we all need teachers. Though spiritual relationshiips come in many different forms, intensities and durations, few of us can reach profound perfect enlightenement in profound and perfect isolation. We learn to read William Blake's "books in the running brooks" from others, whose who show us how. Ordinary books, as inquisitors long have sensed, aren't safe either - they're written by human beings. The woods are full of dangerous teachers: from gun-toting fanatics to self-made swamis promising instant psychic powers for a hefty fee, or more complex characters who have special qualities, but whose spiritual attainments don't include a healthy use of power, money, or sexuality. Relationships with spiritual authorities can get confusing when we begin to question our own reactivity. If we feel resistant to a teacher's advice, how do we know whether this is healthy caution or an undesirable and self-serving ego defense? Many of us come to spiritual practice precisely because our own judgement seems to get us into trouble. If we surrender this judgment to a teach, how can we remain morally and ethically responsible for our lives. No teacher can meet our every expectation; perhpas disappointment is a part of spiritual growth. Before returing to ourselves, more intact than when we started, maybe each of us must learn that no one is completely whole or perfect, at least not in the way we first imagined. Then again, in situations where abuse really is occurring, we may deny or perceptions, telling ourselves - and being told - that we are seeing a reflection of our own neurosis. Expecially if we were victimized as children, we may know all too well how to love people who are also hurting us and not well enough how to leave them. Such penetrating questions will play a part in our spiritual lives no matter what kind of childhood we had. They dn't just vanish after years of meditation. In fact, as our practice matrues, we come to see our teachers' foibles more clearly, and we become insiders, privy to undercurrents from which newcomers are excluded. As Western practitioners consider issues like feminism, the impact of child abuse, and the vlaue of psychotherapy - topics that traditional Asian cultures have not explored as fully - we may find ourselves in conversations ith traditional teachers that lead nowhere, or, at worst, backfire. In an effort to resove these and other questions, 22 Western Buddhist teachers consulted this spring with the highest, most trusted authority they could find: His Holiness the Dalai Lama. Revered as a meditation master and scholar within his own tradition, His Holiness is also known for his openness to new ways of thinking. His insistence on a non-violent stance in World affairs won him the Nobel Peace Price. These Westerners are the first generation of authorized European and North American Buddhist meditation teachers. The conference was organized by Lama Surya Das, a native of New York who is now a teacher in the Tibetan Nyingmapa tradition. Each of the teaches had practices for at least a dozen years in either Japanese or Korean Zen, the four major Tibetan schools, Thai or Sri Lankan Buddhims, or the Friends of the Western Buddhis Order, a Western school based on Great Britain. There were laypeople, monks and nuns, psychologists, scholars, essayist, translators; some had meditated in caves, others had Western doctorates. Most were actively teaching Buddhist meditation, not only in the West, but in Asia, Russia, and coutnries like South Africa and Brazil. None of them had yet stopped "living their questions," as Rainer Maria Rilke would put it. His holiness received the teachers, and their questions, with enthusiasm at his residence in the hill town of Dharamsala, northern India. The four day discussion moved quicky to essential points. Human beings are natrually compassionate and gentle, His Holiness said; the only real purpose of Buddhism, or any other spiritual practice, is to teach us how to develop these qualities in order to make this a better world for all forms of life. Buddhis practitioners should try to become better people, not better than other people. As for teachers, a genuine teacher is motivated to teach by unselfishness, not the reverse. Spiritual practice connects us with the purity, love and freedomw that are human birthrights; someone who has deeply experienced these states of being often feels moved to help others do the same. "You are trying to make a good being," His holiness said, 'eventually a Buddha. Not have someone to run your errands." In choosing a teacher, we should look first for benign and trustwrothy behavior, making a strong effort to assess the person's inner qualities. Have they conquered their own selfishness, anger and greed? If so, to what extent? Are they really interested in helpling others? And lastly, do they have the skills to guide us? Good motivation is important, His Holiness said; but in order to really benefit others, a person must also be able to take local circumstances into account. A good teach can be male or female, from any country. Though it may be important to know whether he or she has been authorized to teach, credentials are not necessarily a measure of wisdom. Nor is charisma necessarily a sign of spiritual attainment. We should not be dazzled by titles, high sounding claims, an exotic sume, popularity or wealth. Since it can be difficult to determine antoher's inner qualities, students must spend time examining a teacher closely. "Spy on them," His Holiness joked. Even after making a commitment, we still should not give up our discrimination. "The real authority of a teacher comes from the students," His HOliness said, not just from a religious hierarchy. Therefore, we can and should question our teachers. If asked to do something unethical, we have the responsibility to refuse; if our relationship with the teacher is a close one, we should explain why we will not follow her or his instructions. How do we decide what is unethical? In Buddhism, the most funadmental basis for action is compassion for all beings. Five prescepts are used as guidelines: No killing, since all beings treasure their own lives. No stealing, since all beings like their posessions. No false or abusive speech, since allbeing desre to hear speech that is truthful, helful and timely. No sex with anyone who is committed to a realtionship with another, nor anyone who is mentally or psycholoigcally incapable of caring for himself or herself; this, since all being are emotionally vulnerable. No intoxication, since it leads to blurring of distinctions; under the influence, we may do and say hurful things we otherwise would not. Different interpretations of the precepts are inescapable. If we choose to adopt the five Buddhist precepts, each of us must decide what they mean. For example, the Buddha was not a vegetarian, in part because he wanted to be able to accept food from anyone who offered it. Traditional Buddhists often eat meat; but others, especially in the West, are vegetarians, as an extension of the first precept against killing. A teach who behave unethically or asks students to do so can be judge as lacking in ultimate insight, His Holiness aid. "As far as my own understanding goes, the two claims - that your are not subject to precepts and you are fee - these are the result of incorrect understanding." No behavior is free from consequences. For this reason, true wisdowm always includes compassion, the understanding that ll things and beings are interconnected with (and vulnerable to) each other. Compassion is not abstract; it is visible as loving, considerate behaviour. :Even though one's realization may be higher than the high beings', his Holiness said, "one's behaviour should conform to the human way of life." When teachers break the precepts, behaving in ways that are clearly damaging to themselves and others, students must face the situation, even though this can be challenging. "Criticize openly," His Holiness declared. "that's the only way." If there is incrontrovertible evidence of wrongdoing, teachers should be confronted with it. They should be allowed to admit their wrongs, make amends, and undergo a rehabilitation process. If a teacher won't respond, students should publish the situation in a newspaper, not omitting the teacher's name, His Holiness aid. The fact that the teacher may have done many other good things should not keep us silent. If these is no chance for change, perhaps we must choose to pack our bags and leave the teacher, though we still may feel inwardly grateful for the helpt we received from him or her. Tolerance and care are needed to decide what is really unethical in ourselves and others. Every person hold personal moreal and ethical standards that are, to some degree, idiosyncratic. If a teacher doesn't meet our ideal of how a teacher should behave, we must exercise all of our honesty and intelligence in determining whether damage has actually resulted. If a teacher doesn't recycle his or her old bottles, for example, we don't need to cal the local daily to report malfeasance. if we think reculcing is important, we might introduce that concept to the teach. If she isn't interested, that doesn't mean we should immediately stop recycling in our own household. If recycling represents a profound value for us, perhaps we should look for a teach who values it, too. In general, His Holiness exhorted Westerners to retain their integrity and authenticity. To be enlightened, it isn't necessary to adopt Asian mannerisms or decorate our homes in Tibetan or Japanes style. It is necessary to develop prodound wisdom and compassion, a genuine undersanding of ourselves. His message emphasize empowerment and affirmation, but also profound responsibility. This message was more than a little scary for some who were resent. at formal essions, panelists spoke in vague generalities; afterwards, in their rooms, they admitted that they were afraid their teachers would hear that they had talked and ostracize them. His holines entreated participants to help him avoid endorsing abusive teachers by telling h im in a conifential letter about any bad situations of which they had personal knowledge. But there was no eagerness to respond, and no one afterward claimed to be writing such a letter. New Disciple: "Oh, Not-So-Great Master, did you ask that widow to sing her millions over to you?" Not-So-Great Master: "Yes. It's good for her not to be so rich." New Disciple: "How do you know it's good for her?" Not-So-Great Master: "Because I see beyond. The money will be used for her spiritual benefit." New Disciple: "Why do you laugh at her behind her back?" Not-So-Great Master: "She's deluded, like you. I already told you that I see beyond. No more questions, or you can't rub my feet any more. In fact, I'll kick youout of my group." Since the meeting was a discussion of principles, rather than an inquisition, specific names were not openly mentioned; still, many of the Westerners had met teachers who claimed a greater moral license. A British-born nun quoted on teacher as having rationalized his unethical behavior by call it "a display of compassionte skillful means that cannot be understood by thos eof lesser attainment." His Holiness replied, "I cannot accept the outlook of perceiving all actions of the guru in purity, and I never rely or depend on such a license." The discussion turned to teacher who have sex with many women students, claiming to enlighten them. To almost everyone's hooror, His Holiness said there were a few cases where this might be possible. He began musing about that famous yogi of medieval Bhutan, Drukpa Kunley, who used to sleep with other men's wives and all sort of inappropriate people. His Holiness aid that Drukpa Kunley did all this only for the long-term benefits of everyone involved, benefits of which he was full cognizant throug his psychic powers. All of the emotional agony Drukpa Kunley caused purportedly turned out happily in the long run. Smiling slightly, His Holiness explained that Drukpa Kunley could understand the long-term effects of his actions because he had attained the nondual insigh known as "one taste." All experiences were the same to him: He could enjoy excrement and urine just like the finest food and wine. Traditionally, His Holiness aid, the practice of tantric sex is permitted only to practitioners who can match Drukpa Kunley's insight. As for the teachers nowadays who sleep with many students, His Holiness laughed and said, "If you put into their mouth some uring, they will not enjoy." This in itself would be proof of their inadequacy. A more traditional test to prove one's suitability for tantric sexual practice, His Holiness said, is to display psychic powers such as flying. "As far as I know," His Holiness concluded, "zero lamas today can do that." Some meditators living in caves around Dharamsala are highlly realized and possible capable of such attainments, he said, but they are celibate. Not-So=Great Master: "Dear Disciple, for your own development, you must see allof my actions as perfect, no matter how strange they may seem to you. Yes, hmm. so take off your clothes so that you can experience yourself in all your nakedness." No-So-New Disciple: "This seems weird. A you really a master?" Not-So-Great Master: "I have a paper from by guru." Not-So-New Disciple: "That's not good enough. I have to believe in you myself. Not-So-Great Master: "Don't you believe that I'm beyond duality, good and evil? My actions don't reflect that petty distinction do they?" Not-So-New Disciple. "That's just what's bugging me." Not-So-Great Master: "Let's get on with it. Strip!" Not-So-New Disciple: "OK, but first, you have to pass the taste test. Here, emjoy this plate of shit." In an informal interview after the conference, His Holiness slapped his knee and exclaimed, "We have started a revolution." ** Kate Wheeler is a write and former Buddhist nun. RESOURCES To read an open letter or for more information, send a stamped, self-addressed envelope to the Network for Western Buddhist Teacher, 4725 E. Sunrise Drive, Suite 137, Tucson, AZ 85718. Videos and audiotapes of the meetings with His Holiness are being prepared. For information contact the nonprofit Meridian Trust, 330 Harrow Road, London WP2HP, England