'I sometimes say
that there are two kinds of sexuality: neurotic and non-neurotic. The
non-neurotic is when there is sexual activity, not through any need
for security, - for example, through sex, or through the "relationship",
- but just because you are young and healthy.
is where there is not only the actual sexual urge, but also an infantile
craving for security, contact, warmth, and so on, through sexual relationship
or activity. It may be, in the case of some people, that they do experience
higher states of consciousness . . . yet at the same time a certain
amount of sexual activity may go on, but this will certainly be non-neurotic.
'However . . . the
great test is how you feel if the relationship breaks up. If your partner,
or lover, or whatever, says, "Bye-bye! I've found someone else", if
you can say, "That's great! See you some time," and just accept it happily,
then you had no neurotic craving along with your sexual relationship
and activity. But if you are cut up, upset and disturbed, and can't
meditate for months, well, obviously there has been a strong neurotic
element. So that is the criterion . . . whether one can remain happy
whatever happens, whatever storms may come.'